20th Century Mujahidah
American lady, a former radical feminist and Southern Baptist
from Oklahoma, studied the Quran, Sahih Muslim and fifteen
other books on Islam in an attempt to convert the Arabs in
her college class to Christianity and "save those poor ignorant
heathens from the fires of hell." But guess what happened!
The Introduction and Decision
was completing a degree in Recreation, when I met my first
Muslims. It was the first year that we had been able to pre-register
by computer. I pre-registered and went to Oklahoma to take
care of some family business. The business took longer than
expected, so I returned to school two weeks into the semester
(too late to drop a course).
wasn't worried about catching up my missed work. I was sitting
at the top of my class, in my field. Even as a student, I
was winning awards, in competition with professionals.
you need to understand that while I was attending college
and excelling, ran my own business, and had many close friends,
I was extremely shy. My transcripts actually had me listed
as severely reticent. I was very slow to get to know people
and rarely spoke to anyone unless was forced to, or already
knew them. The classes I was taking has to do administration
and city planning, plus programming for children. Children
were the only people I ever felt comfortable with.
back to the story. The computer printout held one enormous
surprise for me. I was registered for a Theatre class... a
class where I would be required to perform in front of real
live people. I was horrified! I could not even ask a question
in class, how was I going to get on a stage in front of people?
My husband was his usual very calm and sensible self. He suggested
that I talk to the teacher, explain the problem, and arrange
to paint scenery or sew costumes. The teacher agreed to try
and find a way to help me out. So I went to class the following
I entered the classroom, I received my second shock. The class
was full of 'Arabs' and 'camel jockeys'. Well, I had never
seen one but I had heard of them.
was no way I was going to sit in a room full of dirty heathens!
After all, you could catch some dreadful disease from those
people. Everyone knew they were dirty, not to be trusted either.
I shut the door and went home. (Now, there is one little thing
you should know. I had on a pair of leather hot pants, a halter
top, and a glass of wine in my hands... but they were the
bad ones in my mind.)
I told my husband about the Arabs in the class and that there
was no way I was going back, he responded in his usual calm
way. He reminded that I was always claiming that God had a
reason for everything and maybe I should spend some time thinking
about it before I made my final decision. He also reminded
me that I had a scholars award that was paying my tuition
and if I wanted to keep it, I would have to maintain my G.P.A.
Three credit hours or 'F' would have destroyed my chances.
the next two days, I prayed for guidance. On Thursday I went
back to the class convinced that God had put me there to save
those poor ignorant heathens from the fires of hell.
proceeded to explain to them how they would burn in the fires
of hell for all eternity, if they did not accept Jesus as
their personal savior. They were very polite, but did not
convert. Then, I explained how Jesus loved them and had died
on the cross to save them from their sins. All they had to
do was accept him into their hearts. They were very polite,
but still did not convert. So, I decided to read their own
book to show them that Islam was a false religion and Mohammed
was a false God.
of the students gave me a copy of the Qur'an and another book
about Islam, and I proceeded with my research. I was sure
I would find the evidence I needed very quickly. Well, I read
the Qur'an and the other book. Then I read another 15 books,
Sahih Muslim and returned to the Qur'an. I was determined
I would convert them! My studies continued for the next one
and half years.
that time, I started having a few problems with my husband.
I was changing, just in little ways but enough to bother him.
We used to go to the bar every Friday and Saturday, or to
a party, and I no longer wanted to go. I was quieter and more
distant. He was sure I was having an affair, so he kicked
me out. I moved into an apartment with my children and continued
my determined efforts to convert the Muslims to Christianity.
one day, there was a knock on my door. I opened the door and
saw a man in a long white night gown with a red and white
checkered table cloth on his head. He was accompanied by three
men in pajamas. (It was the first time I had ever seen their
cultural dress.) Well, I was more than a little offended by
men showing up at my door in night clothes. What kind of a
woman did they think I was? Had they no pride or dignity?
Imagine my shock when the one wearing the table cloth said
he understood I wanted to be a Muslim! I quickly informed
him I did not want to be a Muslim. I was Christian. However,
I did have a few questions. If he had the time...
name was Abdul-Aziz Al-Shiek and he made the time. He was
very patient and discussed every question with me. He never
made me feel silly or that a question was stupid. He asked
me if I believed there was only one God and I said yes. Then
he asked if I believed Mohammed was His Messenger. Again I
said yes. He told me that I was already a Muslim!
argued that I was Christian, I was just trying to understand
Islam. (Inside I was thinking: I couldn't be a Muslim! I was
American and white! What would my husband say? If I am Muslim,
I will have to divorce my husband. My family would die!)
continued talking. Later, he explained that attaining knowledge
and understanding of spirituality was a little like climbing
a ladder. If you climb a ladder and try to skip a few rungs,
there was danger of falling. The Shahadah was just the first
step on the ladder. Still we had to talk some more.
that afternoon, May 21, 1977 at Asr', I took Shahadah. However,
there were still some things I could not accept and it was
my nature to be completely truthful so I added a disclaimer.
I said: "I bear witness that there is no god but God and Mohammed
is His Messenger" 'but, I will never cover my hair and if
my husband takes another wife, I will castrate him.'
heard gasps from the other men in the room, but Abdul Aziz
silenced them. Later I learned that he told the brothers never
to discuss those two subjects with me. He was sure I would
come to the correct understanding.
Shahadah was indeed a solid footing on the ladder to spiritual
knowledge and closeness to God. but it has been a slow climb.
Abdul Aziz continued to visit me and answer my questions.
May Allah reward him for his patience and tolerance. He never
admonished me or acted like a question was stupid or silly.
He treated each question with dignity and told me that the
only stupid question was the one never asked. Hmmm... my grandmother
used to say that.
explained that Allah had told us to seek knowledge and questions
were one of the ways to accomplish that. When he explained
something, it was like watching a rose open – petal by petal,
until it reached its full glory. When I told him that I did
not agree with something and why, he always said I was correct
up to a point. The he would show me how to look deeper and
from different directions to reach a fuller understanding.
the years, I had many teachers. Each one special, each one
different. I am thankful for each one of them and the knowledge
they gave. Each teacher helped me to grow and to love Islam
more. As my knowledge increased, the changes in me became
more apparent. Within the first year, I was wearing hijab.
I have no idea when I started. It came naturally, with increased
knowledge and understanding. In time I even came to to a proponent
of polygamy. I knew that if Allah had allowed it, there had
to be something good in it.
the name of thy Guardian – Lord Most High, Who hath created,
and further, given order and proportion; Who hath measured,
and granted guidance; and Who bringeth out the (green and
lush) pasture, and doth make it (but) swarthy stubble, By
degrees shall We teach thee (The Message), so thou shalt not
forget, except as Allah wills: for He knoweth what is manifest
and what is hidden. And We will make it easy for thee (to
follow) the simple (path)." (Al-A'la 87:1-8)
I first started to study Islam, I did not expect to find anything
that I needed or wanted in my personal life. Little did I
know that Islam would change my life. No human could have
ever convinced me that I would finally be at peace and overflowing
with love and joy because of Islam.
book spoke of THE ONE GOD, THE CREATOR OF THE UNIVERSE. It
described the beautiful way in which He had organised the
world. This wondrous Qur'an had all the answers. Allah is
The Loving! Allah is the Source of Peace! Allah is the Protector!
Allah is the Forgiver! Allah is the Provider! Allah is the
Maintainer! Allah is the Generous One! Allah is the Responsive!
Allah is the Protecting Friend! Allah is the Expander!
we not expanded thee thy breast? And removed from thee thy
burden the which did gall thy back? And raised high the esteem
(in which) thou (art held)? So, verily, with every difficulty,
there is relief: Verily, with every difficulty there is relief!"
(Al-Ishirah, 94: 1-6)
Qur'an addressed all the issues of existence and showed a
clear path to success. It was like a map forgiving, an owner
manual for life!
How Islam changed my Life
much more we love the light... If once we lived in Darkness."
I first embraced Islam, I really did not think it was going
to affect my life very much. Islam did not just affect my
life. It totally changed it.
life: My husband and I loved each other very deeply. That
love for each other still exists. Still, when I started studying
Islam, we started having some difficulties. He saw me changing
and did not understand what was happening. Neither did I.
But then, I did not even realise I was changing. He decided
that the only thing that could make me change was another
man. There was no way to make him understand what was changing
me because I did not know.
I realised that I was a Muslim, it did not help matters. After
all... the only reason a woman changes something as fundamental
as her religion is another man. He could not find evidence
of this other man... but he had to exist. We ended up in a
very ugly divorce. The courts determined that the unorthodox
religion would be detrimental to the development of my children.
So they were removed from my custody.
the divorce, there was a time when I was told I could make
a choice. I could renounce this religion and leave with my
children, or renounce my children and leave with my religion.
I was in shock. To me this was not a possible choice. If I
renounce my Islam... I would be teaching my children how to
be deceptive. For there was no way to deny what was in my
heart. I could not deny Allah, not then, not ever. I prayed
like I had never prayed before. After the thirty minutes was
up, I knew that there was no safer place for my children to
be than in the hands of Allah. If I denied him, there would
be no way in the future to show my children the wonders of
being with Allah. The courts were told that I would leave
my children in the hands of Allah. This was not a rejection
of my children!
left the courts knowing that life without my babies would
be very difficult. My heart bled, even though I knew, inside,
I had done the right thing. I found solace in Ayat-Ul-Khursi.
There is no god but He – the Living, the Self-subsisting,
Supporter of all. No slumber can seize him nor sleep. His
are all things in the heavens and on earth. Who is there can
intercede in His presence except as He permitteth? He knoweth
what (appeareth to His creatures as) Before or After or Behind
them. Nor shall they compass aught of His knowledge except
as He willeth. His Throne doth extend over the heavens and
the earth, and he feeleth no fatigue in guarding and preserving
them for He is Most High, The Supreme (in Glory)." (Al-Baqarah,
also got me started looking at all the attributes of Allah
and discovering the beauty of each one.
custody and divorce were not the only problems I was to face.
The rest of my family was not very accepting of my choice
either. Most of the family refused to have anything to do
with me. My mother was of the belief that it was just a phase
and I would grow out of it. My sister, the 'mental health
expert' was sure I had simply lost my mind and should be institutionalised.
My father believed I should be killed before placed myself
deeper in Hell. Suddenly I found myself with no husband and
no family. What would be next?
Most of my friends drifted away during that first year. I
was no fun anymore. I did not want to go to parties or bars.
I was not interested in finding a boyfriend. All I ever did
was read that 'stupid' book (the Qur'an) and talk about Islam.
What a bore. I still did not have enough knowledge to help
them understand why Islam was so beautiful.
My job was next to go. While I had won just about every award
there was in my field and was recognised as a serious trend
setter and money maker, the day I put on hijab, was the end
of my job. Now I was without a family, without friends and
without a job.
all this, the first light was my grandmother. She approved
of my choice and joined me. What a surprise! I always knew
she had a lot of wisdom, but this! She died soon after that.
When I stop to think about it, I almost get jealous. The day
she pronounced Shahadah, all her misdeeds had been erased,
while her good deeds were preserved. She died so soon after
accepting Islam that I knew her 'BOOK' was bound to be heavy
on the good side. It fills me with such joy!
my knowledge grew and I was better able to answer questions,
many things changed. But, it was the changes made in me as
a person that had the greatest impact. A few years after I
went public with my Islam, my mother called me and said she
did not know what this 'Islam thing' was, but she hoped I
would stay with it. She liked what it was doing for me. A
couple of years after that she called again and asked what
a person had to do to be a Muslim. I told her that all person
had to do was know that there was only ONE God and Mohammed
was His Messenger. Her response was: "Any fool knows that.
But what do you have to do?" I repeated the same information
and she said: "Well... OK. But let's not tell your father
did she know that he had gone through the same conversation
a few weeks before that. My real father (the one who thought
I should be killed) had done it almost two months earlier.
Then, my sister, the mental health person, she told me that
I was the most 'liberated' person she knew. Coming from her
that was the greatest compliment I could have received.
than try to tell you about how each person came to accept
Islam, let me simply say that more members of my family continue
to find Islam every year. I was especially happy when a dear
friend, Brother Qaiser Imam, told me that my ex-husband took
Shahdah. When Brother Qaiser asked him why, he said it was
because he had been watching me for 16 years and he wanted
his daughter to have what I had. He came and asked me to forgive
him for all he had done. I had forgiven him long before that.
my oldest son, Whittney, has called, as I am writing this
book, and announced that he also wants to become Muslim. He
plans on taking the Shahadah as the ISNA Convention in a couple
of weeks. For now, he is learning as much as he can. Allah
is The Most Merciful.
the years, I have come to be known for my talks on Islam,
and many listeners have chosen to be Muslim. My inner peace
has continued to increase with my knowledge and confidence
in the Wisdom of Allah. I know that Allah is not only my Creator
but my dearest friend. I know that Allah will always be there
and will never reject me. For every step I take toward Allah,
He takes 10 toward me. What wonderful knowledge.
Allah has tested me, as was promised, and rewarded me far
beyond what I could ever have hoped for. A few years ago,
the doctors told me I had cancer and it was terminal. They
explained that there was no cure, it was too far advanced,
and proceeded to help prepare me for my death by explaining
how the disease would progress. I had maybe one year left
to live. I was concerned about my children, especially my
youngest. Who would take care of him? Still I was not depressed.
We must all die. I was confident that the pain I was experiencing
remembered a good friend, Kareem Al-Misawi, who died of cancer
when he was still in his 20's. Shortly before he died, he
told me that Allah was truly Merciful. This man was in unbelievable
anguish and radiating with Allah's love. He said: "Allah intends
that I should enter heaven with a clean book." His death experience
gave me something to think about. He taught me of Allah's
love and mercy. This was something no one else had ever really
discussed. Allah's love!
did not take me long to start being aware of His blessings.
Friends who loved me came out of nowhere. I was given the
gift of making Hajj. Even more importantly, I learned how
very important it was for me to share the Truth of Islam with
everyone. It did not matter if people, Muslim or not, agreed
with me or even liked me. The only approval I needed was from
Allah. The only love I needed was from Allah. Yet, I discovered
more and more people, who for no apparent reason, loved me.
I rejoiced, for I remembered reading that if Allah loves you,
He causes others to love you. I am not worthy of all the love.
That means it must be another gift from Allah. Allah is the
is no way to fully explain how my life changed. Alhamdulillah!
I am so very glad that I am a Muslim. Islam is my life. Islam
is the beat of my heart. Islam is the blood that courses through
my veins. Islam is my strength. Islam is my life so wonderful
and beautiful. Without Islam, I am nothing and should Allah
ever turn His magnificent face from me I could not survive.
Allah! let my heart have light, and my sight have light, and
my hearing (senses) have light, and let me have light on my
right, and let me have light on my left, and let me have light
above me, and have light under me, and have light in front
of me, and have light behind me; and let me have light." (Bukhari,
vol. 8. pp. 221, #329)
my Lord! Forgive my sins and my ignorance and my exceeding
the limits (boundaries of righteousness) in all my deeds and
what you know better than I. O Allah! Forgive my mistakes,
those done intentionally or out of my ignorance or (without)
or with seriousness, and I confess that all such mistakes
are done by me. Oh Allah! Forgive my sins of the past and
of the future which I did openly or secretly. You are the
One who makes the things go before, and You are the One who
delays them, and You are the Omnipotent." (Bukhari, vol. ,
pp. 271, #407)